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BDSM Myths Exposed

BDSM Myths Exposed

Over the past 8 months or so I’ve been finding myself experimenting more and more into the kinky role playing lifestyle of bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism, also known as BDSM or S&M, and although it’s been less than a year since I started, I’ve noticed that many things I’ve heard about BDSM, and the people that participate in this kink, just aren’t true.

I mean most of the things I heard about BDSM had made me too nervous to try it out, but thankfully I decided to give it a go because almost everything I heard that made me too anxious to try it out sooner was nothing more than a myth.

If you’re on the fence about wanting to participate in some sort of BDSM role playing scenario, please read this article because I’m going to debunk many myths about this kinky fetish that should help you feel more comfortable about giving it a shot.

Believe it or not but BDSM really isn’t anything to be afraid of, and honestly, there are many aspects of this kink that can be beneficial to ones health.

And by the way, I came across an online company today that has the best BDSM gear and devices for both BDSM rookies as well as highly advanced BDSM pros. So please do yourself a favor and check out Bondage Love Toys today so you can see for yourself what’s missing from your BDSM collection.

 

BDSM Myth #1: BDSM Is Extremely Painful And You’ll Get Hurt!

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BDSM isn’t only about hurting, spanking, beating up or slapping someone around because you can play hours without causing or receiving pain.

BDSM can be light and with touches of eroticism, involving subtle role playing, and fetishes solely based on kinky outfits made of latex, leather, or lace.

 

BDSM Myth #2: Everything You Need To Know About BDSM Is In 50 Shades Of Grey!

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There’s a heck of a lot more to BDSM than what’s portrayed in the book, or movie, 50 Shades Of Grey.

Just like marijuana is considered the “gateway drug” to harder drugs, I’d consider 50 Shades Of Grey as the “gateway drug” to better BDSM practices…also, I recommend that couples watch 50 Shades Of Grey together as a way of opening up the discussion about BDSM to try a few things out together…but in no way does this movie represent more than 3% of the BDSM lifestyle and philosophy.

 

BDSM Myth #3: Only Weird Perverts Participate In BDSM!

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If you’ve never dipped your toes into the BDSM swimming pool of kink, and only based your ideas on what you’ve seen in the media, then you’ve probably formulated the opinion that only weirdos, sickcos and sexually perverse people participate in BDSM, but actually nothing could be further from the truth.

BDSM participants can be happy, healthy, open-minded and ready to explore their sexual identities, as well as being less judgmental on people with sexual preferences other than theirs.

 

BDSM Myth #4: Only Men Can Be Dominants!

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One of my close female friends just happens to be a professional dominatrix, and she tells me that just as many men prefer submissive roles as they do dominate roles.

As you get started on your BDSM journey don’t be afraid to test out both submissive and dominant roles so you can discovery which role brings you the most pleasure.

 

BDSM Myth #5: Submissives Are Submissive In Their Everyday Lives!

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Many powerful CEO’s and other successful professionals tend to switch their real life roles of being “dominant” bosses in their real lives to that of the submissive role player in their BDSM fantasies. It’s a form of relaxation, providing a sense of relief of the burden of being constantly responsible for others in their everyday lives.

 

BDSM Myth #6: Dominants Are Sadistic & Dangerous!

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Dominants obviously do enjoy having power over their submissive, and lead their sessions, but everything is agreed upfront. BDSM relationships are highly consensual and most dominants are only going to practice something the submissive likes and enjoys.

 

BDSM Myth #7: Only Gay Men Participate In BDSM Anal Play!

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This is not true whatsoever. Prostate massage or stimulation by hand or a strap-on brings men very intense feelings equivalent to female G-spot stimulation.

So if you’re a straight man testing out BDSM don’t be affraid to let your lover use a strap-on at least a few times on you so you can enjoy new sexual sensations that you’ve never felt before.

 

BDSM Myth #8: 100% Of BDSM Sex Is Painful & Aggressive!

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From my experiences, BDSM does not always include sexual penetration, and in fact, some BDSM practices forbid sex altogether, such as male and female chastity, and orgasm denial; Orgasm denial is the act of not letting your submissive reach an orgasm just when they are very close to having one.

 

BDSM Myth #9: Once You Try BDSM The Regular Sex Becomes Too Boring!

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This is also not true whatsoever! People that participate in the BDSM lifestyle enjoy regular “vanilla” sex just like everyone else does.

 

BDSM Myth #10: BDSM Is Abuse!

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This is 100% false. BDSM participants establish “safe words” that can be used to inform all participants that it’s time to cool things down if their chosed=n “safe word” is said out loud.

Participants should always talk before, during, and after a scene or moment to make sure everyone is on the same page. BDSM in a healthy, consensual environment is not abuse. It is a physical manifestation of desires and urges, no matter how dark or dangerous.

 

BDSM Myth #11: BDSM Is For People That Suffer From Depression!

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Again, this is false. There’s an odd generalization that people who practice BDSM are somewhat darker and more psychologically damaged. However, a large-scale sexual health study on the mental well-being of those that practiced BDSM compared to those that are maybe sexually more traditional found that BDSM practitioners would have better attachments and relationships than their counterparts. They were also far less anxious, more intimate and far more extroverted, which led to very positive mental health and general happiness.

 

BDSM Myth #12: BDSM Leads To Infidelity!

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Believe it or not but couples that participate in BDSM tend to cheat less because they’re extremely open and honest about their sexual desires with each other which means they don’t have to find someone else to help quench their sexual appetites.

Well I hope that after reading about these myths you’re more open to giving BDSM a go because it really will open up your mind and body to an awareness of sexual gratification that you can only achieve from BDSM role playing experiences.

 

-BDSM Gear & Devices For Rookies-

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As mentioned at the beginning of this article, if you’re new to the world of BDSM role play you’re going to need the correct gear and devices to help you start out on your kinky journey, and Bondage Love Toys is the place that I recommend anyone new to BDSM should get their BDSM gear and devices from.

Honestly, the gear and devices used in your BDSM role playing fantasies can really elevate your sexual gratification to the next level, so finding the perfect items to wear and use is key to your BDSM success.

 

-BDSM Gear & Devices For Advanced Kinksters-

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Also, if you’re a seasoned BDSM veteran please visit Bondage Love Toys today and add a new item to your current BDSM arsenal. Trust me, Bondage Love Toys has one of the widest selections of BDSM gear and devices that I may have ever come across.

 

-About Bondage Love Toys-

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Over the past 15 years Bondage Love Toys has been focusing on enhancing the sexual happiness of BDSM players!

Their mission is to be the best forum for the BDSM, fetish & kinky community. With great educational articles, product videos and groups, they provide a platform for like-minded people to make unlimited communication. Also, you can find all of the things you want and need in one location conveniently as well as privately.

 

-Everything You Need For Your BDSM Collection-

Below is a list of the BDSM accessories sold at Bondage Love Toys. Please click on each item with your partner so the two of you can decide which BDSM products you should start with, or add, to your collection.

 

Handcuffs & Restraints

 

Bondage Kits

 

Bedroom Bondage Gear

 

Blidfolds/Masks/Gags

 

Pain & Sensation Play

 

Nipple/Clitoral/Anal

 

Fetish Wear

 

-Few Suggestions on BDSM Accessories-

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If you need any help deciding what you need to make your BDSM fantasies as enjoyable as possible then I suggest you check out these items below.

 

Suggestion #1: Weekend In Bed Bondage Kit (10 Piece)

Weekend In Bed Bondage Kit (10 Piece)

This kit has everything you need for head-to-toe thrills in one place. You don’t need to buy non-matching toys while you can have a full matching kit in one place.

Click here for more information about this bondage kit!

 

Suggestion #2: Frisky Tame Me Pink Bondage Kit (7 Pieces)

Frisky Tame Me Pink Bondage Kit (7 Pieces)

In this kit, you are covered with all the bondage toys you need for an unforgettable play session. Each piece of the kit can be enjoyed independently or as a set. All of them are perfect for intermediate play, depending on how you want to use them.

Click here for more information about this bondage kit!

 

Suggestion #3: Risque Games Bedroom Bondage Kit (15 Pieces)

Risque Games Bedroom Bondage Kit (15 Pieces)

The kit is perfect for introducing you to new ways to play together and have fun with your partner. It will give you blissful adventures beyond your expectations. Your sub will grateful to be bound and tickled with this kit.

Click here for more information about this bondage kit!

 

-Conclusion-

BDSM Myths Exposed

Now that I’ve cleared up all of those false BDSM myths that were holding you back, go ahead and give BDSM role playing a try.

And regardless if you’re just getting started out in BDSM, or if you’re a seasoned kinky vet, please visit Bondage Love Toys today and check out their wide selection of BDSM gear and devices that will only enhance all of your role playing experiences!

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