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The Benefits Of BDSM For Couples

Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism and Masochism, also known as BDSM or S&M, is a very kinky sexual lifestyle that many couples participate in, and unfortunately those that do not participate in BDSM have many misconceptions about this kinky sexual lifestyle based solely on what they’s seen in porn, or from Hollywood movies such as Fifty Shades of Grey, and Secretary just to name a few, that couldn’t be further from the truth.

-Most Common BDSM Fallacies-

I’ve recently just started getting into this kinky lifestyle by using BDSM toys, and the below fallacies about this lifestyle couldn’t be further from the truth.

BDSM Fallacy #1: Only Sickos and Weirdos Are Into BDSM!

If you’ve never dipped your toes into the BDSM swimming pool of kink, and only based your ideas on what you’ve seen in the media, then you’ve probably formulated the opinion that only weirdos, sickcos and sexually perverse people participate in BDSM, but actually nothing could be further from the truth.

BDSM participants can be happy, healthy, open-minded and ready to explore their sexual identities, as well as being less judgmental on people with sexual preferences other than theirs.

BDSM Fallacy #2: BDSM Is Extremely Painful!

BDSM isn’t only about hurting, spanking, beating up or slapping someone around because you can play hours without causing or receiving pain.

BDSM can be light and with touches of eroticism, involving subtle role playing, and fetishes solely based on kinky outfits made of latex, leather, or lace.

BDSM Fallacy #3: Dominants Are Sadistic & Dangerous

Dominants obviously do enjoy having power over their submissive, and lead their sessions, but everything is agreed upfront. BDSM relationships are highly consensual and most dominants are only going to practice something the submissive likes and enjoys.

BDSM Fallacy #4: Subs Are Submissive In Their Everyday Lives!

Many powerful CEO’s and other successful professionals tend to switch their real life roles of being “dominant” bosses in their real lives to that of the submissive role player in their BDSM fantasies. Itโ€™s a form of relaxation, providing a sense of relief of the burden of being constantly responsible for others in their everyday lives.

BDSM Fallacy #5: Only Gay Men Enjoy Anal Play

This is not true whatsoever. Prostate massage or stimulation by hand or a strap-on brings men very intense feelings equivalent to female G-spot stimulation.

So if you’re a straight man testing out BDSM don’t be affraid to let your lover use a strap-on at least a few times on you so you can enjoy new sexual sensations that you’ve never felt before.

BDSM Fallacy #6: Only Men Take On The Dominant Role

One of my close female friends just happens to be a professional dominatrix, and she tells me that just as many men prefer submissive roles as they do dominate roles.

As you get started on your BDSM journey don’t be affraid to test out both submissive and dominant roles so you can discovery which role brings you the most pleasure.

BDSM Fallacy #7: BDSM Requires Painful & Aggressive Sex Acts!

From my experiences, BDSM does not always include sexual penetration, and in fact, some BDSM practices forbid sex altogether, such as male and female chastity, and orgasm denial; Orgasm denial is the act of not letting your submissive reach an orgasm just when they are very close to having one.

BDSM Fallacy #8: BDSM Is For People That Find Regular Sex Boring!

People that participate in the BDSM lifestyle enjoy regular “vanilla” sex just like everyone else does.

-Top 3 Benefits Of BDSM-

Now that we know what the main misconceptions of the BDSM lifestyle are, here are the benefits people, and couples, receive from acting out their kinky fantasies.

BDSM Benefit #1: Helps Couples Communicate Better

Couples who practice BDSM tend to fare better than non-kinky couples when it comes to communication because theyare more aware and communicative about their sexual desires.

Even the concept of โ€œsafe wordsโ€ and making a distinction between โ€œplayโ€ and otherwise typical relationship interaction is what contributes to the excellent communication between BDSM partners.

BDSM Benefit #2: Increases Intimacy

Sexually adventurous couples enjoy more potent levels of intimacy because they are willing to try new things out in the bedroom.

Couples that follow a “routine” in the bedroom suffer greatly in the intimacy department.

BDSM Benefit #3: Less Likely To Have An Affair

Couples that participate in BDSM tend to cheat less because they’re extremely open and honest about their sexual desires with each other which means they don’t have to find someone else to help quench their sexual appetites.

-What To Wear For Your BDSM Journey-

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If you and your partner want to begin participating in some BDSM role playing fantasies then finding the right fetish outfit is key to making your experiences as pleasurable as possible.

Now if youโ€™re a man that really wants his lady to get on board with BDSM then I highly urge you to only use high quality BDSM gear and accessories, trust me, high quality BDSM looks super sexy and your chick will be more down for a hardcore spanking session if her ass looks amazing in what she’s wearing.

I suggest that you and your partner get online together and visit Obsessharness.com. Trust me, after your lady sees how sexy BDSM outfits can be, sheโ€™ll be very into the idea of letting you dominate her on a more consistent basis.

-About Obsessharness.com-

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Obsessharness is a workshop where erotic accessories are created. They are designed to expand the culture if sexuality. They will immerse you in a new world, a world of play, intrigue, and new passionate feelings. You will bring yourself a new sensation that will transcend past sexual experience by using fetish outfits such as leather harnesses, full body harnesses, leather masks, and so much more, by experimenting and pushing boundaries.

All of their products are handcrafted from high-quality Italian leather. Proven production techniques, professional equipment and attention to detail determine the high level of requirements to the product created for you!

-Quality Makes All The Difference In The World-

You and your partner will enjoy BDSM on an even deeper level together if you use high quality restraints, accessories, and clothing that only Obsessharness offers.

Below is a list of BDSM gear and accessories from Obsessharness that all couples just starting out on their kinky journey will need if they want to get the most pleasure out of their new sexual experiences.

Womens Leather Harnesses

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Leather harnesses for women is a compliment to any image that emphasizes the dignity of the female figure. This is an incredibly seductive fetish accessory that helps couples to achieve their deepest sexual BDSM fantasies!

Click to view their selection of women’s leather harnesses!

Leather Full Body Harness

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Women’s harness reveals the inner energy of its owner, allows showing the female nature of the temptress. The main purpose of the full body harness BDSM is emphasizing the beauty of the female curves, the outlines of the figure and demonstration of sexuality and magic in the relationship.

Click to view their selection of leather full body harnesses!

Bondage Harnesses

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Click to view their selection of Bondage Harnesses!

Strapon Harnesses

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Click to view their selection of Strapon Harnesses!

-Conclusion-

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Please visit Obsessharness today so that you can begin your BDSM journey wearing the sexist fetish outfits around, because what you wear on your BDSM journey is just as important as who accompanies you on your journey!

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