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Private Paradise Helps Expose False BDSM Myths

For almost a year now I’ve been dipping my toes into the VERY kinky lifestyle of BDSM and S&M, also known as bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism, and although I haven’t been participating in BDSM for all that long of a time, I’ve realized that ALL of the scary things I thought about BDSM just aren’t true.

Seriously, most of the things I heard about BDSM had made me too nervous to try it out, but thankfully I decided to give it a go because almost everything I heard that made me too anxious to try it out sooner was nothing more than a myth.

If you find yourself really wanting to try BDSM role playing, but are kind of nervous like I was, then I highly urge you to read this entore article, because I promise that if you do you’ll be ready to give this kinky lifestyle a fair shot.

Once you educate yourself on BDSM you’ll discover that there are many aspects of this kinky world that can actually be beneficial to your overall mental health.

I also want to inform you all about an AMAZING online sexual wellness boutique called Private Paradise that has the BEST BDSM devices, gear, and toys for ALL levels of BDSM role playing. So no matter if you’re a bondage rookie, or a kinky veteran, Private Paradise will have the exact items you’ll need to take your BDSM role playing fantasies to the next level! And trust me, each new level is more satisfying than the previous one!

Now I’d like to discuss and debunk some BDSM myths below so you feel more comfortable giving this kinky lifestyle a fair shot!

BDSM Myth #1: BDSM Is Extremely Painful And You’ll Get Hurt!

BDSM isn’t only about hurting, spanking, beating up or slapping someone around because you can play hours without causing or receiving pain.

BDSM can be light and with touches of eroticism, involving subtle role playing, and fetishes solely based on kinky outfits made of latex, leather, or lace.

BDSM Myth #2: Everything You Need To Know About BDSM Is In 50 Shades Of Grey!

There’s a heck of a lot more to BDSM than what’s portrayed in the book, or movie, 50 Shades Of Grey.

Just like marijuana is considered the “gateway drug” to harder drugs, I’d consider 50 Shades Of Grey as the “gateway drug” to better BDSM practices…also, I recommend that couples watch 50 Shades Of Grey together as a way of opening up the discussion about BDSM to try a few things out together…but in no way does this movie represent more than 3% of the BDSM lifestyle and philosophy.

BDSM Myth #3: Only Weird Perverts Participate In BDSM!

If you’ve never dipped your toes into the BDSM swimming pool of kink, and only based your ideas on what you’ve seen in the media, then you’ve probably formulated the opinion that only weirdos, sickcos and sexually perverse people participate in BDSM, but actually nothing could be further from the truth.

BDSM participants can be happy, healthy, open-minded and ready to explore their sexual identities, as well as being less judgmental on people with sexual preferences other than theirs.

BDSM Myth #4: Only Men Can Be Dominants!

One of my close female friends just happens to be a professional dominatrix, and she tells me that just as many men prefer submissive roles as they do dominate roles.

As you get started on your BDSM journey don’t be afraid to test out both submissive and dominant roles so you can discovery which role brings you the most pleasure.

BDSM Myth #5: Submissives Are Submissive In Their Everyday Lives!

Many powerful CEO’s and other successful professionals tend to switch their real life roles of being “dominant” bosses in their real lives to that of the submissive role player in their BDSM fantasies. It’s a form of relaxation, providing a sense of relief of the burden of being constantly responsible for others in their everyday lives.

BDSM Myth #6: Dominants Are Sadistic & Dangerous!

Dominants obviously do enjoy having power over their submissive, and lead their sessions, but everything is agreed upfront. BDSM relationships are highly consensual and most dominants are only going to practice something the submissive likes and enjoys.

BDSM Myth #7: Only Gay Men Participate In BDSM Anal Play!

This is not true whatsoever. Prostate massage or stimulation by hand or a strap-on brings men very intense feelings equivalent to female G-spot stimulation.

So if you’re a straight man testing out BDSM don’t be affraid to let your lover use a strap-on at least a few times on you so you can enjoy new sexual sensations that you’ve never felt before.

BDSM Myth #8: 100% Of BDSM Sex Is Painful & Aggressive!

From my experiences, BDSM does not always include sexual penetration, and in fact, some BDSM practices forbid sex altogether, such as male and female chastity, and orgasm denial; Orgasm denial is the act of not letting your submissive reach an orgasm just when they are very close to having one.

BDSM Myth #9: Once You Try BDSM The Regular Sex Becomes Too Boring!

This is also not true whatsoever! People that participate in the BDSM lifestyle enjoy regular “vanilla” sex just like everyone else does.

BDSM Myth #10: BDSM Is Abuse!

This is 100% false. BDSM participants establish “safe words” that can be used to inform all participants that it’s time to cool things down if their chosed=n “safe word” is said out loud.

Participants should always talk before, during, and after a scene or moment to make sure everyone is on the same page. BDSM in a healthy, consensual environment is not abuse. It is a physical manifestation of desires and urges, no matter how dark or dangerous.

BDSM Myth #11: BDSM Is For People That Suffer From Depression!

Again, this is false. There’s an odd generalization that people who practice BDSM are somewhat darker and more psychologically damaged. However, a large-scale sexual health study on the mental well-being of those that practiced BDSM compared to those that are maybe sexually more traditional found that BDSM practitioners would have better attachments and relationships than their counterparts. They were also far less anxious, more intimate and far more extroverted, which led to very positive mental health and general happiness.

BDSM Myth #12: BDSM Leads To Infidelity!

Believe it or not but couples that participate in BDSM tend to cheat less because they’re extremely open and honest about their sexual desires with each other which means they don’t have to find someone else to help quench their sexual appetites.

Well I hope that after reading about these myths you’re more open to giving BDSM a go because it really will open up your mind and body to an awareness of sexual gratification that you can only achieve from BDSM role playing experiences.

BDSM Gear & Devices For Rookies & Advanced Kinksters

As I mentioned at the beginning of this article, if you’re new to the world of BDSM role play you’re going to need the correct gear and devices to help you start out on your kinky journey, and Private Paradise is the place that I recommend anyone new to BDSM should get their BDSM gear and devices from.

Honestly, the gear and devices used in your BDSM role playing fantasies can really elevate your sexual gratification to the next level, so finding the perfect items to wear and use is key to your BDSM success.

BDSM Gear & Devices For Advanced Kinksters

Also, if you’re a seasoned BDSM veteran please visit Private Paradise today and add a new item to your current BDSM arsenal. Trust me, Private Paradise has one of the kinkiest selections of BDSM gear and devices that I may have ever come across in a VERY long time.

Private Paradise believes that there is no shame in being a slut!

Private Paradise IS your exclusive ADULT’S ONLY online store for all your Naughty items. From BDSM leather items, ankle & wrist restraints, nipple clamps, and butt plugs, you will be sure to find a wide selection of naughty products that will spice up any sex life, strengthening your relationships with your lover(s), Master(s) or Mistress(es) and friends.

But Private Paradise is so much MORE than just a place for BDSM & Fetish goodies…

Everyone deserves to enjoy amazing orgasms, and no one understands this more than the people over at Private Paradise!

Private Paradise makes being an adult extremely fun & pleasurable!

Private Paradise is an adult store, with a strong cause that offers a wide selection of sex toys for mensex toys for women, and sex toys for couples alike!

They want to celebrate sexual freedom, equality and love. ALL of their sexual wellness products come from the most trusted brands in the sex toys industry, with years of experience.

Quality and customer satisfaction is what matters the most to the people who run and operate Private Paradise, and they want to help people explore their sexuality safely, make their sex life’s happier, and promote sexual health with a positive and respectful approach.

Jenny’s Favorite Kinky Goodies from Private Paradise

You can’t go wrong with any kinky device, toy, or retsraint you order from Private Paradise, but if you’re having a difficult time deciding on what to get, then check out my three favorite items from their BDSM selection listed below for inspiration…

OUCH! SLUT PADDLE

The Ouch! Slut Paddle from Shots Toys is the perfect BDSM impact play device that ALL couples need to play with as soon as possible.

This impact play paddle will leave a lasting impression on your sub. The word Slut is reversed so it will show up on their skin. Made of firm but flexible stitched leather.

Visit Private Paradise to learn more about the OUCH! SLUT PADDLE!

SEX & MISCHIEF INTRO INTO S&M KIT BLACK

Sex and Mischief’s Intro To S&M Kit is the best BDSM kit for couples new to the world of BDSM fantasy role play, as well as kinky veterans that have been on their BDSM journey for many years!

With so many options to choose from in this BDSM kit, your nights will NEVER be boring again!

Visit Private Paradise to learn more about this S&M KIT!

FETISH FANTASY YOGA SEX SWING

Swing into difficult sexual positions you never imagined with the world’s first ever Yoga Sex Swing. With the aid of the Yoga Sex Swing, you can defy the laws of gravity and enjoy sexual positions you never thought were possible, without special strength, balance or agility. The versatile swing allows you to move into a range of yoga positions both in the horizontal and vertical planes, strengthening and stretching virtually every muscle in the body required for amazing sex

Visit Private Paradise to learn more about the FETISH FANTASY YOGA SEX SWING!

CONCLUSION

Well I hope that with the help of Private Paradise we’ve cleared up enough BDSM myths that’ll help you feel more comfortable giving this kinky lifestyle a try!

And please, I beg ALL of you to visit Private Paradise today and check out ALL of the AMAZING BDSM & Bondage toys they have that will help you fulfill ALL of your kinky role playing fantasies!

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