Since I’m a swinger myself I receive almost 300 emails per week from readers asking a wide range of “swinger” oriented questions, but the number one question I get is this:
“Jenny, my significant other and I want to have sex with another couple that we know but we aren’t sure how to tell them.”
Well this can be a very tricky situation if not handled correctly. Here is some advice on how to approach the situation.
Tip #1 – Are You Ready To Lose Their Friendship
Before letting another couple know that you want to have sex with them you need to decide how important their friendship is to you and your significant other, because you might lose their friendship forever once they find out that you’re into the swinging lifestyle.
Once another couple finds out that you and your significant other are swingers there’s no going back because they’ll ONLY see you as swingers if they aren’t into it; if you DO NOT want to lose their friendship then you may never want to tell them that you’re swingers.
If they’re “into” it then they’ll not just see you as swingers because they understand the lifestyle.
If you’re “okay” with risking the friendship then proceed to tip #2!
Tip #2 – Invite Them Over For Dinner and Drinks
Invite the couple over that you want to have sex with over for dinner and drinks. Don’t be overly flirtatious, just be friendly and have playful conversations about sex while you’re eating dinner and enjoying a few glasses of wine together.
Also, make sure that you and your significant other dress as sexy as possible for the dinner so that the other couple finds the two of you attractive.
Tip #3 – Observe The Other Couples Interest in Sex
During dinner you’ll be able to tell how open your friends are about sex; if they seem into it then you can continue advancing the conversation toward your end-goal, but if they seem turned off then shut it down right away or you may lose them as friends forever.
Tip #4 – Let the “Cat Out of the Bag” With A Game
Now that everyone is starting to feel the effects of the wine I suggest playing a “swinger” oriented game; games make the best icebreakers because you’re not the ones pushing the limits, but the game itself can be blamed for doing that!
At the last swinger’s party I went to the hosts brought out a game called Couple Game 2019, and I suggest that you get this game as well to play with other couples that you want to have sex with.
About Couple Game 2019
Couple Game 2019 is an erotic board game for 2 to 8 open-minded couples. The double sided game board offers 2 levels, softcore and hardcore, and is designed for beginners all the way to experienced swingers. The 30 “action” fields per side contain special and erotic tasks that are visually displayed. Each position on the board and the associated action for men or women is also explained in the game description. For each action you have only a limited time available. The game offers a lot of erotic fun for all couples.
Perfect For Beginners & New Couples
One side of the board is specially designed for new players. Play this version with new friends or couples if you’re not sure how “far” you want to go!
In the “softcore” version the highest action is oral sex and no task has actual sexual intercourse. There are mainly erotic tasks such as taking off clothes or “fondling” other people. The players can switch to the hardcore version at any time if all players agree. You can find some examples of the softcore tasks below.
I suggest you start with this version of the game the first time you play it with a new couple because they’ll be more open to give it a shot…then maybe joke around about they “Hardcore” version of the game to see what they think. If you get the feeling that they may want to give the “hardcore” version then I say go for it!
The “hardcore” version gets right to the point. Although designed for experienced couples and swingers, there is probably at least one task for which you would rather use a diamond, so that you don’t have to complete the task. For all tasks there is a time limit, otherwise most of the guys would not be able to complete the first round!
EXAMPLES SOFTCORE TASKS
1 – Put a hand in a player’s pants and see if he or she is already horny!
2 – Orders all male players to take off a piece of clothing.
3 – Use the “Sexposition” dice and simulate the position with the player to your right..
4 – The player who throws the highest number using the dice touches your pussy with his dick. (but no penetration allowed).
5 – Stand in front of any player facing away from them and with your legs apart – you will be fondled from behind.
6 – Massage and caress the butt of a desired player with oil.
7 – Striptease – Take off your clothes or use a diamond as a joker to keep 1 piece of clothing !!!
Maybe start out by just doing these tasks to your own significant other in front of the other couple before suggesting that you switch up partners.
EXAMPLES HARDCORE TASKS: These Are Way More Fun!
1 – Your hands are tied behind you; then all male players lick you all over your body at the same time.
2 – The player to the left inserts his dick in you, but he is not allowed to move until the hourglass expires.
3 – Let yourself be licked by 2 players of your choice. Each of the 2 players will receive a diamond.
4 – The female player who throws the highest number on the dice has her breasts oiled; then you rub your dick in between.
5 – You are fucked by all men at the same time (double or more) but you decide what is allowed.
6 – Blindfold!!! – All players penetrate you one after another – if you guess who is, you will receive a diamond.
If you really want to inform another couple that you and your significant other want to have sex with them then be prepared to lose their friendship if they aren’t interested in your swinging lifestyle.
But if they do seem interested then I suggest you play the softcore version of Couple Game 2019 with them as a way of getting things started and to see how far they’re willing to go with you and your significant other!